The first of January marks a new year, and for divorcing couples this can be a great time to focus on the life changes they are making. Setting goals that will help you get through the toughest days of divorce can allow you to move on to happier times and take on the future with confidence. Here are some of the top resolutions for the new year from some of the top minds in the business.
1. Reach out for help
One of the worst things you can do with your support system is ignore it. You likely have friends and family members who want to help you but do not know how. They may feel unsure of what to say, so they wait for you to come to them. You may have also had people offer to help and you declined. Either way, it is vital to your mental health to seek out and surround yourself with those who support you. They can carry you until you feel confident standing alone.
2. Get on top of your finances
The health of your pocket book can be affected by the state of your marriage. A divorce can wreak havoc on your bank account and lead some people to financial ruin, but it does not have to do so. If you are in the midst of divorce proceedings, make sure to keep track of every penny you spend and statements of all accounts and any other financial documents. Knowing your financial history and needs will increase your chances of coming out ahead after divorce. If you are already divorced, budgeting and managing your finances can help you avoid additional stress.
3. Set aside quiet time
While you may sometimes feel lonely without your partner, having time set aside to reflect and be quiet can be soothing. Take a moment out of your busy day to go for a run, meditate, do yoga or take a long walk. Leave your cell phone on silent and spend some time evaluating how you are doing on your goals and what areas that still need improvement. Write down what you decide to do and stick to it. Calm reflection can lead you to solutions and inspiration that are otherwise pushed out by the bustling noise of everyday life.
One of the most important things to do in the new year is make sure you have an experienced legal team behind you. As you navigate divorce, having someone who knows the law and courts can be a huge advantage. Follow these steps and contact a divorce attorney, and you will be better prepared for the new year and beyond.